“My people are destroyed for the lack of knowledge” Hosea 4:6
It’s lack of knowledge that ruins our lives. You can always tell the areas in which we have knowledge—for its reflected in our lives. Just like you can always tell the areas we lack knowledge—for it also is reflected in our lives.
The greatest of all knowledge is; “the knowledge of self.”
When we don’t know ourselves, we suffer. “Knowledge is Power,” was coined by Francis Bacon in 1597.
It was further added on to by Napoleon Hill.
Napoleon Hill said: “Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organized into definite plans of action, and directed to a definite end.”
This takes it a step further. It gives the knowledge a purpose. It tells it where to go. If you don’t have an organized plan of action; your knowledge is null and void. I’m glad that Hill saw the need to add an addition to this age-old adage. It definitely graduated it to a higher level. Hill understood, that knowledge without action, got you nowhere.
In the past the places I came up short in were—the “definite aim” aspect. I took action on my plans, in regards to trying to be an entrepreneur. However; I needed a definite plan, that needed to be organized. I realized I could only get there with extreme clarity. All this was good information; but it was still incomplete. There were pieces to the knowledge piece that needed to come together.
There were deep intricacies that weren’t mentioned about knowledge I learned. Like the “right knowledge.” Which is the “knowledge of self.” Knowledge that doesn’t concern us; doesn’t keep us seeking it. I’d add this to the acquisition of knowledge piece.
Back to the part on “self-knowledge.” The right knowledge will educate us about ourselves. The right knowledge will highlight and draw out our capabilities.
Education: Its root origin needs to be looked at here. Educare and Educere; 2 latin root words to consider.
Educare-To train or to mold.
Educere-To lead out.
Building upon these two words—The right education, the right knowledge will:
-Lead out of you
-draw out of you what’s there.
When you have knowledge of self; you know how to apply these directives. As you gain knowledge of who you are; while understanding the plan, and organizing it—you will have power. The plan comes when you have “knowledge of self.” As such; you will live a fulfilled and purpose driven life.
Which brings to mind another Biblical scripture:
“Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom and with all thy getting get understanding. Proverbs 4:7
With the understanding of who you are, while learning the true meaning of your past life dynamics—now you have something to work with. Now this is where; and when you will have true wisdom.
Mathew 11:19 “But wisdom is known by its children.”
Breaking it down into laymen terms: What you produce comes from wisdom. When you have wisdom; what you produce is a product (children) of that wisdom.
Essentially; if knowledge is the acquisition of facts, information, and skills acquired through experience and education—we are equipped with all that we need. We just have to know how it all ties in with our purpose. We have to know how to organize all that we’ve acquired.
What can we learn from our past and our experiences? What does it all reveal about what our purpose is? What passions, and desires has it promoted in us? What’s it all trying to tell us?
As we organize the information gathered in the latter—we will have power! No longer will we be destroyed for lack of knowledge.
Clues and hints; are hidden in the very definition of the word knowledge.
Having the facts, skills, experience and information we’ve gathered throughout our lives—It needs to be organized. Having “knowledge of self” is the organization of these skills. It draws the parallels and connections between everything we’ve experienced.
There’s value in our experiences. Contained within the experiences of our lives are valuable information. Information about; “who we are,” what we came in the world to do,” and our divine purpose. It’s why we must study our past. We must realize the story that’s been unfolding all along. Knowing what to do with this information organizes it. It gives it direction, and a definite chief aim.
Thank you for reading these words. Peace & Blessings
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For years I was plagued with anxiety. I was stuck and couldn’t get out from under it. I prayed, and worked hard to quell it–but to no avail. I felt as if there was no hope in getting rid of it. It was a constant companion in my life.
I felt anxiety from my head to my toes. It was very painful and emotionally distressing. There were fears and stuck emotions that were repressed. What made it hard was that these conditions were operating on a subconscious level. I wasn’t really aware of what was causing them.
What I did know; was that I was working a full-time job and trying to transition out of it. I wanted to be my own boss and own my own time. The problem was I was forcing it. I was trying too hard. I learned from the major slogans that were programmed into the masses. You know–the slogans: “Work harder,” “Push yourself” and “force things.” They tell you that if you don’t succeed in your endeavors; it’s because you don’t want it bad enough.
I believed them and it was driving me crazy! I thought something was wrong with me when I tried without success. I don’t believe they were intentionally trying to mislead people; they were just following an outdated paradigm. The model of pushing and forcing things, just doesn’t work. It pushes you further and further into a black hole. It causes more resistance, stress and anxiety. The latter way will kill you!
It only confused me further when I tried to follow the advice of those in leadership positions. You know preachers, motivational speakers and coaches; even the people around you. It was not the way to go. It was a lie. It consequently was the culture, of how we were trained in society.
There were secrets about manifesting that they were holding back on. They were leaving out crucial steps to getting what you want. No wonder why I was messed up! My misunderstanding was the root cause of my anxiety. I adopted perspectives; of pushing and forcing that were working against me.
I didn’t know how to “allow” what I wanted. I just wasn’t a match for getting what I wanted. My anxiety was indicative of this fact. Like I mentioned: I wanted to be my own boss, own my own time–and be free to live life on my terms. There was something I wasn’t understanding though. I didn’t know how to get what I wanted in the midst of disfavorable circumstances. My focus was in the wrong place. I was focused on what I didn’t like or want regarding my dilemma.
I really hated working for people. I wanted to get out of the “Rat Race.” Along with it all; I was unhappily married. However; I felt guilty about walking away from my marriage. That’s a whole other story. I mention this aspect because it was relevant to my condition. Consequently; that was the climate that contributed to my anxiety and stress.
I wanted to spend my life helping people overcome their limitations and manifest what they wanted. It was my passion and still is my passion. I lived slept, and breathed that intention. It was all I thought about; was owning my own business doing what I loved. I was obsessed with writing and learning about metaphysical concepts. I wanted to turn my passion into a business.
I was also a writer and had written all my life. I always wrote my thoughts down. I kept daily journals all my life; about my life accounts. What I learned; or was going through was written down in my journals. As I helped my friends and family with their issues; I realized I had the gift of prophesy.
I could easily see where they were in their lives and determine what they needed to do. I knew how to help them heal. I would go into their minds and help them work through their adversities. They were amazed at my precision, insight, and depth of knowledge. They would tell me that I had a gift. To be honest as I helped them; I was helping myself. It in turn; gave me insight into my own issues. It raised my awareness of where I was stuck too.
I understood the meaning of biblical scriptures way before I learned their meanings. Especially regarding the human spirit and its plight. It’s what made me effective in helping my friends and family work through their problems. Honestly; I didn’t know I had a gift initially. As well as a knack for writing, coaching and speaking. I was just passionate about it. As my passions grew inside of me; so did my anxiety and stress.
I felt overwhelmed, and tremendous pressure to perform. I wanted a better life for myself and my children. I had illusions of grandeur. I knew the life I wanted, but just couldn’t seem to get to it. All the while; information was coming to me so quickly that I couldn’t keep up with it. Ideas, thought and metaphysical concepts downloaded to me daily. My enthusiasm and zeal for life was fueled by the metaphysical books I read. I couldn’t get enough of them. I overindulged on all kinds of metaphysical books.
I had an insatiable desire to learn, to know and to grow. This brought my anxiety to an all time high. It brought it to a head. The more I wanted my life to improve, the greater my anxiety became. I refused to take anything for my anxiety. I didn’t believe in drugs. I preferred natural alternatives. The herbal supplements I took were only a temporary relief. Shortly after taking herbs like Valerian Root, Camomille, Kava Kava etc. the anxiety returned.
I wanted to build a business, but was stressed out about my living environment. You know; about being unhappily married and at a job I hated. I was trying to take care of my 3 children, most times working 2 jobs. A fulltime and part time job. 50 hour work weeks and still trying to fit in my personal goals. At night I worked on my business and writing career. All in the midst of trying to uphold my household and family obligations.
It was almost impossible. Something had to give! It ended up being my goals that were compromised. There just wasn’t enough hours in a day to do it all. I was disciplined and kept my home life together. I didn’t waiver there, but my life goals were on the back burner. Those were the intricacies of my inherent anxiety. My responses to not having or living the life I wanted–caused me tremendous stress and anxiety.
I had a lot of resistance in my mind, my body and my soul. There was no alignment, or congruency. It was killing me! I experienced extreme pain and stress from my head to my toes. All the while I was living a healthy lifestyle. I exercised regularly, ate right and fasted for multiple days a month with no food. It was my normal way of life. One in which I never deviated from. Maybe that’s why I never seemed to manifest a serious disease in my body.
My healthy disciplines proved to be a buffer against disease. It counteracted the effects of my stress and anxiety. I also was an avid reader of metaphysical books which kept me afloat. Thank God for the reprieve that the books, exercise and healthy living provided. Otherwise; I would probably not be here with you today. It kept me alive.
The harder I tried to do it all; the further away I was from succeeding. I heard often how you should try harder and push for what you wanted. I took the advice of many who said that it was the way to get what you wanted. For me it wasn’t working. The harder I pushed, forced and worked; the more stuck I became. I found myself just trying to survive! I was living in survival mode! I was accomplishing very little. I wasn’t living fully. I was just trying to play catchup with my goals.
I could always be found writing, and coaching my friends and family members naturally. Without trying to, I’d help them with their problems. I was good at helping them; but wasn’t able to help myself much. Anxiety was ruining my life. My intentions to get things done, were taking over by anxiety.
I learned there are universal Laws that govern creation. These laws correlated with The Law of Attraction. I was “Going against the Grain.” I was causing resistance. I was on the wrong channel of my life. I was focused on what I didn’t want. My anxiety was indicative that I wasn’t “allowing” what I wanted. It was proof that I wasn’t a match for what I wanted. My mind, my body and my soul were divided. There were parts of me that were on the right page with what I wanted, while the other parts of me were opposed to it.
It was this constant dichotomy, that revealed the dominant parts that were winning. They were the loudest parts of me. No wonder why I was stuck! The majority was ruling me. There was no congruency within me. I was divided. This calls to mind a Biblical scripture: James 1:8 “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways”
What an appropriate scripture to explain my dilemma. I was all over the place and wishy washy. I procrastinated, while saying one thing but doing another. I was always making mental excuses and pardons for myself. I told myself because of the outer circumstances of my life I had justifications. I had reasons for blaming it on my life situations.
I was always finding a way out of sticking to what I intended. It’s not that I wasn’t productive; for I worked very hard. I just didn’t follow through things to the end. Something was holding me back and softening my resolve. I came to realize that it was the things hidden in my Subconscious Mind.
When I was following intending to finish things; I was whipped with anxiety. It won the fight most times because it robbed me of energy. It took away the presence of mind to complete my tasks. What a mess I was!
It’s as if a part of me was sabotaging my efforts. Even when I tried really hard to change this habit; I wasn’t able to quell it. I wanted to accomplish and complete things. I wanted to finish things really bad. Most things were just right before the finish line–but I couldn’t cross them over the line. I would push and force my efforts, but to no avail. It was a nightmare! Can you imagine wanting something so bad, but not being able to get it done?
This caused me even more anxiety. I was on an emotional roller coaster. I couldn’t break free from it. This went on for years, the forcing, pushing, aspiring to, working on multiple projects all at once. The major distraction for me was; I was just trying to survive the next moment. To reiterate: I hated my life, my job, and was unhappily married. I was contradicting myself.
What am I saying here? There were parts of my mind that didn’t agree that I could have what I wanted. Those parts were the dominant parts of me. The two perspectives, of the whole of me– caused me much grief. Topping it all off; I was choosing to sleep only 5 hours a night. As such; I was emotionally and physically exhausted. For twenty years I lived like that. Depriving myself of rest; believing it would help me catch up. However; I was still pushing and forcing things.
Up until that point I was confused. I didn’t know that I was stopping myself. I thought some outside force was responsible for my issues. As if I was being punished for something, or blocked by God. Like I had a curse on me.
One day I woke up and realized what was happening. I learned that I had to get all parts of me to agree on what I wanted. I had to get them all on the same page. This is called “alignment.” When all parts of you are in accord, with a common goal you are aligned. The question was: How could I get all parts of me to agree?
I asked the question and the answer appeared. I had some help figuring it out. I was reading a book by Jack Canfield called; “The Success Principles, How to Get From Where You Are Now To Where You want to Be.” In the book Jack Canfield’s mentor Clement Stone told him he wouldn’t work with him unless he took 100 percent responsibility.
That was it! It hit me like a ton of bricks. Take 100% responsibility for everything in my life. It was a good start, but how could I deal with the parts of me that weren’t in agreement? Then it occurred to me that I had to change my focus. I had to put my focus on what I wanted, instead of what I didn’t want. It worked for a while, I had long periods free of anxiety and stress. Then the inner conflicts and emotional, monstrous tirades returned!
Taking responsibility wasn’t enough to keep me stable. It was not until I found out how The Law of Attraction worked, that I finally got it. I found out that as long as I was focusing on what I didn’t want–it was keeping me with what I didn’t want. Also that; I would never accomplish what I wanted if energetically I was on the wrong channel.
To get what I wanted I had to be on the right channel. I had to make sure my mind, my body and my soul were on the same page. What I learned is that; “We don’t get what we want; we get what we are.” This meant I had to become a new person. I had to think differently. After reading about the benefits of meditation and other tools–I decided to grab the Bull by the Horn. I practiced the tools of consistent–daily meditation, visualization, written affirmations, and keeping a daily Gratitude journal.
This proved to be highly effective. It gradually began to change my beliefs, the parts of me that were out of alignment. Eventually the anxiety and stress dissipated all together. That was 4 years ago to the date of this writing.
Just recognizing that I was cutting myself off from what I wanted was enough. It gave me a new approach and directive. I was tired of cutting myself off. Having anxiety and stress meant that I was. It’s been 4 years since I’ve had an attack of anxiety or stress. My life has changed completely for the better. I’m accomplishing great things with ease now. Life is a whole lot easier since I decide to practice daily rituals.
What changed? My thinking, my focus and my daily practices. I went to war with getting the armor that I needed. It protected me against the onslaught of anxiety and stress. It gave me a new focus and put me on the channel of what I wanted.
A morning and daily ritual using the tools of the latter; immunized me against anxiety. The key is “consistency.” I had to be consistent in my practices to see a difference. Once I got there; the parts of me that were out of agreement began to comply. They began following suit, with the growing dominant parts of me. All parts of me were finally agreeing. They were believing that I could have what I wanted.
It’s all about congruency, which is Alignment. It’s what was missing in my life. When I found out that my anxiety was stopping me from getting what I wanted–it was all I needed to know. I started taking responsibility, practicing daily rituals, and changing my energetic patterns and frequencies.
“Everything is energy!” It’s what I learned about with The Law of Attraction. “We create our own reality.” These are immutable laws that govern creation. They are universal laws. Regardless to our ignorance of them; they work the same all the time. Ignorant or not; we are responsible for our lives!
Hopefully you have learned from my experience; and nip anxiety and stress in the bud. You don’t have to suffer the way that I did. You truly can beat it once and for all! With daily morning rituals mentioned above; I was able to overcome anxiety. I was able to get in the drivers seat of my life–and govern my life according to my intentions. The beast of anxiety; no longer had me as a prisoner. It’s my intention that after reading this, it won’t have you either.
Through dedicated, daily rituals; you can gain control of your mind. You can find the alignment that’s needed. You can get all the parts of you on the same page. You can make them agree with all that you desire to accomplish. You will go from being a victim of anxiety to a victor.
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Thank you Kindly for taking the time to read these words. Peace & Blessings.
I remember reading this statement in Robert Kiyosaki’s book, “Rich Dad Poor Dad.” “Those Who Seek to Keep Their Security, Lose Their Freedom, and Those Who Seek to Keep Their Freedom Lose Their Security.” I thought to myself: “What a profound statement.” I pondered over this for many years after reading that book. The impact of those words touched me so deeply, that i included it as a topic at a workshop i was giving for women at a local community center. What does it mean? Why did i decide to write this post today on this subject? Why did it touch me so deeply that i included it in a workshop? Let’s take a look at this:
Today as i was driving my children to school, i was pulled over by an officer who had already had someone waiting in line for him. He said that i had run past a yellow school bus with the flashing lights on my left side…The crazy thing about it was, that i didn’t even see the bus. I had always considered myself to be a cautious and a defensive driver. Only one time many years ago i was accused of passing a school bus and knew for sure that when i passed the bus, the lights had already went out. But there was an officer who patrolled the area where i worked, and claimed that i passed the bus when the lights were up. I went to court and told the judge that i knew for sure that i didn’t pass when the bus had the flashing lights on. He seemed to have an attraction for me and sensed my sincerity and decided to dismiss it, with a fine for $385. I was pissed! Why am i telling you this story? Because the first incident appeared to cause me to lose my security and possibly my license. It seemed like i would be all messed up. But something in my spirit wouldn’t allow that cop to ruin my day. I told myself that i was going to have a good day regardless. I decided that my security could never be wrestled, as long as my inner resolve was in tact. There may be officers of the land over certain laws, but the God within is the only reality.
This premise didn’t mean that i would be exempt from the consequences of paying a fine. It didn’t mean that in the external world i wouldn’t suffer some discomfort. What it did mean, was that my security came from within. In the understanding of such, i was free. No one could take away my freedom unless i let them. I didn’t care about losing my security, i didn’t care about the consequences of my actions. It was a mistake. It was not done intentionally. A special note: The right attitude to have is, the kind i pondered over when reading in the Bible the story of “David and Goliath.” David didn’t run from the battle, he ran to it. Now like David i am courageous. Like David i am focused on my goal. I am focused on the victory being won. My tribulations and adversities of the past, have been building me up. I now stand firm on my resolve, to live my intention.
I no longer want to run from what i needed to face. On many occasions in my life i felt like: “Now here i am in the “Pit Hell of Goliath, i’m facing my demons head on. I may lose my security, but i am more free today than ever! Now i know that it’s better to be free than secure.” What do you mean by that Sherie? What do you mean it’s better to be free than to be secure? What i mean is, there is nothing better than freedom. When you are free, you don’t fear consequences. When you are free, you are not fooled by appearances, and how things look and adversities. Because you know in your heart, in your soul and in your mind; that the security that you seek is within you. As long as you are secure within, no one can ever take away your security, and you will always be free! What a beautiful resolve to have when you understand. It’s not an easy road to travel when you start to think like that. You may temporarily lose a whole lot of security. You may lose your job. You may lose a mate. You may lose the comforts that you’ve known. But if you keep your eye on the “prize,’ if you keep your mind focused on the highest of ideals, you will be free. What is your ideal? I’m talking here about the vision of where you desire to go…..That is your security! That is your freedom! And as long as you hold that vision in your mind, it is a reality. And no one could ever take away your security. You will always be free, when you hold yourself to a higher ideal. How is that Sherie, that you will be free?
“You mean to tell me that i will be free? “I don’t have a job right now.” “I don’t know how i’m going to eat next month.” “I don’t know how i’m going to pay my rent.” “I don’t even know if i will be able to get a job.” “I don’t know if i could support myself and my children.” The place that you are looking for, that place of security, that place of freedom; is found within you. So it’s not about bad mouthing anyone. It’s not about hurting anyone. It’s about doing what you need to do for yourself. It’s about being really, really free! That’s what true life is. It’s freedom! How much would you pay for freedom? Some say the price is too high. Some settle for something less. But the price of freedom is worth it. Without freedom, you are a slave to circumstances. Without freedom, you are dead! Because circumstances will always determine your forward moving action. Whenever you are enslaved, you live according to circumstances. If everything’s going well, then you are happy. If things don’t go well your not happy. And you start adjusting your life according to external circumstances. What happens then, is that you begin to soften your resolve and lose your ideal. Your ideal is your vision of where you are going. “Where There is No Vision, the People Perish.” How is it that you have a vision, and you are born with a vision and a desire to manifest the highest of your potential: But something happens to you in your life, some type of adversity, some type of financial constraint, or maybe a relationship issue or problem. And then what happens? Because you are not rooted in your internal security, you soften your resolve.
As you soften your resolve you lose your vision or give it up. Because you feel that your vision cannot be accomplished based on the circumstances or obstacles. What happens when you allow yourself to give up? You lose yourself. You lose your passion. You lose your zeal and enthusiasm for life. You lose your existence. Because you are no longer alive. You are no longer pumping with the spirit of life. The blood of life no longer flows through your veins. It becomes coagulated because you have let someone or something clot and cloud your way of thinking. Or you have let a circumstance, or adversity stop you. No matter what is going on in your life right now, i want you to understand……that you must never lose sight of your vision. Even when it looks impossible. You must never, ever , ever, give up! Your vision is your life! It’s all you have. It’s what makes you a human being. It’s what sets you apart from the animals and the insects and the creatures in nature. Because you have free will to choose for yourself, what you desire. I hope i’m making it plain? I hope i’m making it crystal clear, of how important it is to choose your freedom over your security.
When you live for your security, you live in a comfort zone. And your comfort zone constricts your growth. That comfort zone stifles out your vision. That comfort zone, spoils all of your useful habits. My mom used to always say, “Bad Associations Spoil Useful Habits.” I’m going to say that again, “Bad associations spoil useful habits.” How is that so? What do you mean? Who are you associating with? What are you thinking? Association is not only the people you hang out with, it is also the thoughts you entertain. Have you been courting the wrong mindset? Have you associated your thinking with the wrong belief systems? That’s a whole other story, that i won’t go into now for the sake of brevity. Your security is you. You must never put your security in the hands of circumstances, or people. We have no control over others or circumstances. The only control we have is in ourselves. So where is your security? It is in your resolve, it is in your stance, it in your firm resolutions and affirmations.
When you decide to be free you change your language. You begin to speak words like: “I will not buckle under external circumstances.” “I will not be fooled by appearances.” “I will not give up my dignity and my self respect, just to keep a job.” “I will not be disrespected by my boss.” “I will not be mistreated by my husband.” “I will not be mistreated by my wife.” “I choose to live my life abundantly.” “I choose to be free.” “I choose to be free from time clocks.” “I choose to be free to choose for myself how much i will make in my financial life.” “I choose to rely on myself and God.” “I choose to live my highest ideal and manifest my vision.” “No matter how crazy things may get, i choose my freedom.” “No matter what deprivation i may suffer, i choose to be free.” “No matter what consequences come my way, i choose my freedom.” “No matter how crazy things look when it all seems to be falling apart, i choose my freedom.” This is the mindset that will give you true freedom. Will you choose freedom over security? When you choose freedom no one can control you, or harm you.
When you choose freedom, you are alive. When you choose freedom, it doesn’t matter what is taken away from you, you know that you can always get it back and more. When you choose freedom, you understand that there are no endings, only beginnings. Let’s start now! Choose freedom today!
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I’m going to ask you for just for a moment to allow yourself to be. Let go of all of your inhibitions. Your pretensions, and your self-consciousness if you will. Let go of your fears. Take a walk with me now. Let us walk down the path of the unknown. Leave your resistance at the door.
Is there something you want to do, but you don’t know how to do it? Who would you like to be in this moment? I’m not asking who you think you could be. But who would you like to become, that you don’t believe you can become? Is there a certain skill you need to acquire? Is there a certain education needed that you don’t have? What would it take for you to become that person? I’m not asking you what the world believes you need to become, to be that person. I’m asking you what do you need to to do to become that person?
Let me make my point here: The person you would like to become, is the person you already are. Your only requirement i say, is to “be.” Be that person that you know you are. That person lives in the heart of your heart. Stand up i say! You don’t need to know what the journey looks like. All you have to do is be that person. Act like that person. Speak like that person. See through the eyes of that person. Taste like that person. Hear through that persons ears, touch with the hands of that person. If you do, you will find that you are that person.
You will also find that you will come alive. You will awaken to your spirit. Above all, this is who you are! You are pure consciousness known as “spirit.” It awaits the opportunity to be expressed by you. What are you waiting for? “Be!”
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You must understand that unless you are living your intentions, you are not really living. A goal, and a task, is something you intend to accomplish. Most of us are only doing the things that we believe we can do. We go around in circles trying to skirt around what we want. We tell ourselves that we need money to accomplish our goals. Or we may tell ourselves that because of such and such, we can’t do what we set out to do.
I was talking to my friend Aiesha earlier today about why we must do what we must do. In fact, this article is inspired by that conversation. I was telling her that a lot of things changed for me, the moment i stepped up to be committed to getting things done. Sometimes we believe we are committed to what we are doing, but we are really not. When you are committed to something, you give yourself “No Room For Excuses.” You get it done regardless to the circumstances. So what is it that stops us from getting things done? Sometimes it’s financial reasons, time constraints, or just plain old excuses. I know for me i realized that setting deadlines, really helps you to expedite the process. It helps you to accomplish your goals. Without a deadline you are just wishing and hoping to do something. Zig Ziglar says it like this: “You can’t hit a target that you can’t see.” I thought that that advice was pretty straight forward. But when i looked deeper into what he was saying, he was not only saying that you have to see it; he was also saying that it had to be “measurable.” That’s the component that most of us seem to miss.
Making things “measurable,” takes it to a whole other level. It puts things into bite-size pieces for us, so that we don’t feel overwhelmed. When something is measurable you know exactly when it will be finished. You have something to reach for. In retrospect, i can say that i thought to have a “target” was enough. The way i rationalized it was that, if I’m working on it every day it’s getting done. Wouldn’t you agree? Now i look at it differently. I know now, that putting a deadline on your goals or tasks, takes it to another notch. If you don’t put a deadline on your tasks or goals, you seem to believe you have “forever.” When you believe you have “forever,” you never push yourself to complete your tasks in a timely manner. You always leave yourself a window of opportunity to take your time. You may even procrastinate because you feel that you have “forever.”
Another point that my friend Aiesha brought up was, “obstacles.” She said that a lot of her goals were being delayed because of obstacles. I explained that the only way to overcome “obstacles,” was to make your reasons “why” stronger than your reasons “not to.” Your reasons why, are the reasons why you want to accomplish your goals. If this reason for doing what you do is not strong enough, you will give yourself “room for excuses.” You will procrastinate and put it off. For example: My reason for writing articles consistently on this blog, are stronger than my not writing articles consistently. Why? Because my reason for doing it is that i have something to share. I’m looking to not only inspire and motivate people, I’m also looking to help transform human life. For me, i feel it is my duty, and my obligation to share what i know. When i add my “Why” up, it becomes stronger than my reason not to write my articles. When i get lazy and don’t feel like writing, i remember my “why” and i spring back into action.
You know when your “why’s” are stronger, because they will motivate you into action. If you are not clear on your “why’s,” your “not’s” will become the dominant force in your life, and whatever is dominant, will rule. So make sure you are totally clear on “why” you want to accomplish a goal. One way to make it crystal clear, is to write your “goals” down. Once written down, carry it around with you in a small notebook as a reminder. As busy as life can be, we all need a reminder. Like they say: “Out of Sight, is Out of Mind.”
Concerning obstacles, they are subjective. That’s right, they are in your mind. It is only when you accept things as an obstacle, that they will be one. When you make a decision to get something done, and you are committed, obstacles don’t exist. You have tunnel vision regarding your goal. You realize that nothing can hold you back unless you let it. You keep your goal in mind and see nothing else. Obstacles are perceived blocks. They are not real unless you make them real.
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Here is another radio show interview that I appeared in dated November 18, 2011. I was a guest coach on Dr. Ed Moloney’s show. Dr. Moloney is the author of the book “Focus Change.” You can find out more information about him by going to his website: http://www.attractingabetterlife.com You must search for the show in the archives by going to typing this “URL” on the address bar………. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/dr-ed-moloney This show is about overcoming limitations.
I hope you enjoy the show, any questions or comments don’t hesitate to share…Best of everything to you Sherie Hollis